DRAMA QUEENS... We all know them. Maybe you are one or maybe your like me who work with some, have a few in the family, or have those friends that are. I have NEVER been a huge fan of drama. Even in high school when it was "cool" to start and create drama I steered clear. I have always been nice to everyone and friends with all kinds of people, that's just who I am. Sometimes this lead me to getting flack from others because I was friends with those who were "Uncool". Perhaps it also has to do with the way I was raised. My parents would never let me disrespected them or anyone else for that matter. My Mom always told me "Be nice to those who get picked on and who other people don't want to be friends with because if that was you, you would need a good friend," and the classic "Always treat others as you would want to be treated." These are the principles I grew up with that are now fried into my brain and make me who I am. However, now that I am an adult I realize there are tons of adults, even those who are a lot older than I am, who act younger and more immature than any child I have ever seen.
It is disappointing that so many I know and are around seem to live for the drama. I don't get their motivation behind it? I guess I really can't think like they do though, it seems so far fetched to me. Maybe it makes them feel better by being rude, mean, back stabbing, and putting others down to build themselves up??? I don't know. Maybe it's because some don't have anything else better to do with their time and they are bored? Who knows? All I know is I believe it is childish for adults to act this way. For me, I am too busy to think of being in drama, it really doesn't even cross my mind. I am lucky that I also married John who doesn't believe in drama, that way we are on the same page.
In the past few months I have seen drama first hand on too many occasions to the point that John and I have decided to remove ourselves from these situations. For certain reasons I will not get into any details on some of these but I do think it's a shame that even family will put you down, be disrespectful, and talk to our friends more than we ever hear from them and act like our friend hung the moon when they have no idea about that person. I just don't get the motivation behind being so rude. Or another family member who won't even see his own parents now that he's married much less let their grand daughter see them. I mean seriously? Grow up! The world is a cruel and harsh place so why also be this way to your relatives, we need to work on building each other up, no tearing one another down. We already get enough of that in the world we are living in.
I have also dealt with this at work. My co-workers are all older than me and have children but act so immature. I came from St. Thomas where I was used to my co-workers being family. We all got along and had each others backs. Well, little did I know I was up for a HUGE upset. On my unit now, all the nurses have it out for me (with the exception of like 2 or 3 people). Talk about a hostile environment to be in for 13 or more hours a day! I have no friends at work and really don't have anything in common with my co-workers. They are always in bad moods and always complaining. I can get along with anyone and it didn't bother me at first but after so long it starts to wear on me. I have had people at work put me down for no reason, always give me the hard assignments, I always have more patients than anyone else, talk behind my back, and try to find a reason to get me in trouble. I guess since I'm the new girl on the block who is young and positive and happy they decided to have it out for me since the day I started. It doesn't really matter to me, I go into work and do my job and take good care of my patients and try to ignore all the things they do or say. But I have come home on numerous occasions in tears. I have never had this issue in my life with anyone, let alone a whole unit of people. I guess the saying is true "nurses like to eat their own young." In all honesty, these people are probably unhappy with their own lives and then see me who is happy and enjoying life and they just can't stand it. It's not all women either, I know a few Drama Kings as well! There are certain doctors at work who I've seen yell at a nurse in the middle of the hallway where all the co-workers, patients, families, etc. can hear. The worst part is, usually the doctor is dead wrong and doesn't even know what is going on with their own patient. But if anything doesn't go according to their way they have to put someone else down who actually was doing the right thing. Heaven forbid they aren't right... that just doesn't happen, lol. So I never go into work looking forward to it and I never leave happy either. The ONLY reason I go back is for my patients! I love them so it makes it worth the awful environment.
So after dealing with a family member, a friend, these co-workers, and complete strangers acting rude and being the best Drama Queens they can possibly be, John and I decided it was time for a change and time for simplifying our lives. Basically, getting rid of all the negativity and people who didn't have any respect for us and couldn't treat us with the same kindness we tried to treat them with. After a while, it became hard to always be the nice guy. That act gets old! I don't hate anyone so I don't wish anything bad for these people, I just don't care to have these kind of people in my life. I think after a while of being the bigger person and taking the high road you eventually have the right to walk away and be done with those situations. It's really a shame that people have to be like that but all I know is what goes around comes around and these people will meet their match one day. John and I strive to be mature adults and to be nice to everyone around us, that's how Christ wants us to be. I will no longer let these people have any kind of effect on me. That's why we have cleaned up our friends on face book as well as those people in our lives. It is only fair. So we are happy to be starting a new chapter without any Drama Queens/Kings and it feels SO good! So here's to simplicity, maturity, and being kind to one everyone! Remember... if you act like a child, expect to be treated like one. If you are an adult, grow up and act like one or no one is going to take you seriously or want to be around you. If you back stab people to get on their nerves don't except them to want anything to do with you. It really does all go back to a simple lesson we all learned as children... "Treat others as you want to be treated." Come on adults, let's all grow up!
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